Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes, I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at [email protected] Thank you so much for listening!

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82. BDSM, Kink, Sexual Fantasies, and Trauma; Featuring Quandra Chaffers, LCSW, CSE

A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd, LPCC; and it’s where we explore the effects of abuse and healing from relationship trauma through intimate discussions.

Quandra Chaffers, LCSW, CSE joins us today to discuss BDSM, kink, sexual fantasies, and trauma. Quandra and discuss the difference between a healthy sex-based lifestyle vs a life-style based in trauma. Quandra also discussed how to determine if a partner is abusive and not respectful of boundaries. She also shares why it’s important to explore therapy if you are a trauma survivor and how trauma/abuse may show up for you in the bedroom.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. The opinions of the guests on A Date with Darkness Podcast are independent of the opinions of Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC.

Visit Quandra Chaffers, LCSW, CSE: www.sasstherapy.com

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81. Surviving Toxic Families, Featuring Marina Williams, LMHC

A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd, LPCC. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse and healing from relationship trauma.

Marina Williams, LMHC and author of Surviving the Toxic Family joins us on the couch today to discuss toxic family dynamics and how to overcome them. Marina offers solid tips and suggestions on managing boundaries around family toxicity. She also shares her personal struggles in managing unhealthy family conflict.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. The opinions of the guests on A Date with Darkness Podcast are independent of the opinions of Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC.

Visit Marina Williams LMHC on LinkedIn: Marina Williams, LMHC | LinkedIn

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80. Exploring Troubled Relationships Between Mothers and Daughters, Featuring Ann Dillard LMFT

A Date With Darkness Podcast is hosted by Dr. Natalie Jones, Psyd, LPCC, a licensed psychotherapist in California. Join Dr. Jones for an intimate discussion about the effects of abuse and healing from relationship trauma.

Ann Dillard, LMFT and owner of KIP Consulting Services, LLC joins us today to have a candid conversation about painful wounds in the mother-daughter relationship. Ann shares her experience with her own mother, and how it motivates her to hold positive space for her own daughter. Ann provides tips and suggestions on how mothers can provide a safer and more nurturing environment for their daughters. She further offers insight on how to nurture yourself if the relationship does not meet your expectations.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner. The opinions of the guests on A Date with Darkness Podcast are independent of the opinions of Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC.

Visit Anne Dillard’s website: www.anndillard.com

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79: Part 2: Continuing to Explore Deceptiveness and Red Flags in Relationships; Featuring Anna Stowe Certified Mitigation Specialist

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Part 2: Anna Stowe, certified mitigation specialist and owner of Stowe Investigations joins us today to talk about her experience as being a private investigator. Anna described how women seek out her services when they are distrustful of their spouses actions. Anna discussed how despite the evidence that she provides, people still choose to stay in troubling relationships. Lastly, Anna discusses the dark side of her work, and how she handles it when people get seriously hurt.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Visit Anna Stowe’s website: https://www.stoweinvestigations.com

 

 

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78. Investigating the Red Flags in Relationships, Featuring Certified Mitigation Specialist Anna Stowe

Anna Stowe, certified mitigation specialist and owner of Stowe Investigations joins us today to talk about her experience as being a private investigator. Anna describe how women seek out her services when they are distrustful of their spouses actions. Suspicions of cheating, hiding alimony, dating scams, internet/fraud scams, having a secret lover tucked away somewhere can be just the beginning of what she uncovers. Anna also discusses the reactions of her clients once they have discovered the extent of their partners deceit. Lastly, Anna discusses when it is appropriate for someone to contact a private investigator.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Visit Anna Stowe’s website: https://www.stoweinvestigations.com

Watch the video podcast on Youtube: Investigating Red Flags in Relationships, Featuring Certified Mitigation Specialist Anna Stowe

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77. Addressing the Pain of Those Who are Hurting on Valentine’s Day

Today’s episode addresses those who may be hurting or resentful of Valentine’s Day. In this solocast, I discuss why we may be hurting on Valentine’s Day and how we can cope with the hurt that we feel on this day.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Watch this Video on YouTube: A Date With Darkness Youtube

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76. Escaping Emotional Abuse, Featuring Beverly Engel, LMFT

Beverly Engel, LMFT joins us today to talk about her new book Escaping Emotional Abuse. Beverly and I have a candid conversation about how powerful emotional abuse is, and how shame can keep us bound to a vicious cycle of internalized abuse. Beverly educates on how we can heal from emotional abuse.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Visit Beverly Engel’s website: www.healmyshame.com

Book by Beverly Engel: Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing From the Shame You Don’t Deserve

Watch the video podcast on Youtube: Escaping Emotional Abuse

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75. Sitting in the Adult Chair With Michelle Chalfant, LPC

Michelle Chalfant, LPC, creator The Adult Chair Podcast and I have a candid conversation about what it means to be an adult. She shares how trauma and other factors can keep us stuck in a child or adolescent state of thinking. She shared, why we stay mentally stuck, and how we can move forward to be an adult who consistently takes responsibility for their actions and is dedicated to personal growth.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Visit Michelle Chalfant’s website: www.theadultchair.com

Book by Michelle Chalfant: The Adult Chair: A Guide to Loving Yourself

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74. Coming to Terms with The Fifth Agreement, Featuring don Jose Ruiz

don Jose Ruiz, who co-wrote The Fifth Agreement with his father don Miguel Ruiz (author of The Four Agreements) joined us today to discuss the motivation behind his book. He shared some of his life’s tragic experiences of trauma and substance abuse and how he fought and overcame his inner demons on his journey to self-love using the power of Toltec Wisdom.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

See the YouTube Version of this podcast and subscribe to the channel: A Date With Darkness Podcast

Website for don Jose Ruiz: https://www.miguelruiz.com/

Books Mentioned:

The Four Agreements 

The Fifth Agreement

My Good Friend The Rattlesnake

The Wisdom of the Shamans

Instagram don Jose Ruiz: donjoseruiz

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73. Understanding How the Body Stores Trauma, Featuring Dr. Janina Fisher, PhD.

Dr. Janina Fisher PhD. joins the show today to discuss how and why the body stores trauma in the tissue and how we can do certain exercises to release the emotional pain from our bodies.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Visit Dr. Janina Fisher’s website

Books By Dr. Janina Fisher, PhD:

Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation

Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment 

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