Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes, I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at adatewithdarkness@gmail.com. Thank you so much for listening!
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Avalaura, LGSW; owner of Avalaura’s Healing Center discussed her personal experience with a painful breakup. She provided insight about signs and feelings that we should pay attention to within ourselves when our relationships are unhealthy, dysfunctional, and no longer serve a purpose.
To connect with Avalaura, please visit: http://www.avalaura.com
Dr. Joy Harden Bradford PhD, the creator of Therapy For Black Girls podcast and private practice joins us today to discuss the Pain associated with breakups and why it can be difficult to move on. Dr. Harden Bradford offers tips on how to cope with a loss of a love, and get back to feeling whole again.
To connect with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford please visit: https://www.therapyforblackgirls.com
Arnitta Holliman, LPC discusses the background and the abusive turmoil that women who are in the sex trade endure. The struggle that the women often endure includes homelessness, abuse, abandonment, as well as difficulty having their basic needs met. She describes the process of helping the women find resources, in addition to helping them address their mental health issues.
To connect with Arnitta Holliman, please visit: www.facebook.com/arnittaholliman
Confession #3. Kareem Puranda, LPC and owner of Self Talk Counseling and Consulting in Charlotte, NC discusses growing up in a violent environment in NY, and how that experience influenced his experience as a law enforcement officer in the Salisbury PD. Kareem also discusses the pivotal moment in his law enforcement career in which violence escalated, was caught on film, and made him re-evaluate his behavior. His experience was the motivation behind his book.
To connect with Kareem, please visit:
https://www.selftalkcounseling.com/about
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Psychological abuse is a component of all abusive relationships, especially relationships with a narcissist. Julie Clockston, LCSW is the owner of Julie Clockston Counseling in Aurora, CO and specializes in working with women who are healing from psychological abuse. Julie discusses psychological abuse that we experience in relationships with narcissists, and how we can heal from the cycle of abuse. She offers tips and suggestions on how to recognize and overcome the abuse.
To connect with Julie Clockston, visit:
https://www.facebook.com/julieclockstoncounseling/
or email: Juliej@gmail.com
Resources mentioned:
Codependent No More, By Melodie Beattie
Walking the Tiger, Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
The Brain Fix, By Ralph Carson, Phd.
The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, by Eleanor Payson
The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel Van Der Kolk
This is confession #2, with Joshua Shea, a writer, who was a publisher of a lifestyle magazine, creator of a film festival in Maine, and was a politician got himself into hot water when he convinced a teenager to commit a sex act via webcam. Mr. Shea described himself as a narcissist, who struggled with bipolar disorder and addictions, which spiraled out of control. Mr. Shea discussed the process of being charged as a sex offender, and how it has impacted him. As a result of his experience, Mr. Shea has a written a book to educate others on sexual addiction, which has been cathartic in his healing process.
Book Mentioned:
The Addiction That Nobody Will Talk About: How I Let My Pornography Addiction Hurt People and Destroy Relationships, By Joshua Shea
Dr. Alicia Hodge, PsyD who is in private practice in VA, and specializes in treating obsessive compulsive disorders, anxiety, trauma, relationship issues, self-esteem, and rigid thinking using cognitive behavior therapy joins us today to discuss how our anxiety can cause unhealthy relationships .She enlightens us on how overthinking can actually be detrimental and sabotage the health of our relationships; and offers tips on how we can relieve our anxiety.
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To connect with Dr. Alicia Hodge please visit: www.helpmehodge.com
email: ahodge@centerforcbtva.com
This is the first episode in which a guest shares their personal story about struggling and healing from abandonment and substance abuse in her family. Charnessa Pleasant, LCSW explores how her ups and downs have shaped her journey as a therapist.
To connect with Charnessa, please email thehealingcollab@gmail.com
facebook.com/thehealingcollaborativepllc
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Patrice N. Douglas, MFTI, Certified Anger Management Specialist and I sit down to have a chat about the function of anger and how it can help or hurt us. Patrice and I discuss cultural hot topics such as the angry black woman and the angry family. She also shares tips and tools about anger that is out of control.
To connect with Patrice N. Douglas, MFTI go to www.patricendouglas.com
Chasity Chandler, LMHC, ICADC, CST, CDWF, MCAP discusses the importance of understanding and having discussions about how sexual health. Her candid conversation explains why not having conversations about sexual health can lead to feelings of shame and guilt.
To connect with Ms. Chasity Chandler please visit her website http://www.centerforsexualhealthandwellness.com