Welcome to A Date With Darkness Podcast. This podcast is dedicated to those who have been hurt by love and abuse, through their relationships with narcissistic people. The purpose of the podcast is to deepen the understanding of hurtful and traumatic relationships which have been a source of unspoken pain and trauma. In the episodes, I will be chatting with various experts in various fields to provide education, tips, resources, and information for those who are survivors of abusive relationships. I will combine my expertise of forensics, domestic violence, and work in various mental health fields to have an intimate discussion with you about abusive relationships, characteristics of dangerous and manipulative people, how to move beyond the victim role, learn to love and heal from the wounds of toxic relationships. If you have a question about the podcast or you want to get in touch with me directly, please feel free to email me at [email protected] Thank you so much for listening!

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77. Addressing the Pain of Those Who are Hurting on Valentine’s Day

Today’s episode addresses those who may be hurting or resentful of Valentine’s Day. In this solocast, I discuss why we may be hurting on Valentine’s Day and how we can cope with the hurt that we feel on this day.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

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76. Escaping Emotional Abuse, Featuring Beverly Engel, LMFT

Beverly Engel, LMFT joins us today to talk about her new book Escaping Emotional Abuse. Beverly and I have a candid conversation about how powerful emotional abuse is, and how shame can keep us bound to a vicious cycle of internalized abuse. Beverly educates on how we can heal from emotional abuse.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Visit Beverly Engel’s website: www.healmyshame.com

Book by Beverly Engel: Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing From the Shame You Don’t Deserve

Watch the video podcast on Youtube: Escaping Emotional Abuse

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75. Sitting in the Adult Chair With Michelle Chalfant, LPC

Michelle Chalfant, LPC, creator The Adult Chair Podcast and I have a candid conversation about what it means to be an adult. She shares how trauma and other factors can keep us stuck in a child or adolescent state of thinking. She shared, why we stay mentally stuck, and how we can move forward to be an adult who consistently takes responsibility for their actions and is dedicated to personal growth.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Visit Michelle Chalfant’s website: www.theadultchair.com

Book by Michelle Chalfant: The Adult Chair: A Guide to Loving Yourself

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74. Coming to Terms with The Fifth Agreement, Featuring don Jose Ruiz

don Jose Ruiz, who co-wrote The Fifth Agreement with his father don Miguel Ruiz (author of The Four Agreements) joined us today to discuss the motivation behind his book. He shared some of his life’s tragic experiences of trauma and substance abuse and how he fought and overcame his inner demons on his journey to self-love using the power of Toltec Wisdom.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

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Website for don Jose Ruiz: https://www.miguelruiz.com/

Books Mentioned:

The Four Agreements 

The Fifth Agreement

My Good Friend The Rattlesnake

The Wisdom of the Shamans

Instagram don Jose Ruiz: donjoseruiz

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73. Understanding How the Body Stores Trauma, Featuring Dr. Janina Fisher, PhD.

Dr. Janina Fisher PhD. joins the show today to discuss how and why the body stores trauma in the tissue and how we can do certain exercises to release the emotional pain from our bodies.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode are general tips and suggestions. This episode may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Visit Dr. Janina Fisher’s website

Books By Dr. Janina Fisher, PhD:

Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation

Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists

Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment 

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72. Liberation from Racialized Trauma, Featuring Shawna Murray-Browne, LCSW-C

I am joined by Shawna Murray-Browne, LCSW-C who discussed her work on Black liberation and healing from racialized trauma. Given the recent surge in media coverage of police brutality and racial unrest, it is important that we educate ourselves and manage our self-care. Shawna discussed the difference between Black liberation and cultural sensitivity/awareness. Lastly, Shawna discusses her personal journey of picking up the pieces after her arrest and using her experience to help others.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

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Website for Shawna Murray-Browne, LCSW-C: https://www.shawnamurraybrowne.com/

Instagram Shawna Murray-Browne, LCSW-C: Heal A Sista

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71. Exploring the Gifts of Grief; Featuring Dr. Ajita Robinson, PhD, LCPC

Dr. Ajita Robinson, PhD, LCPC joins us today to talk about her new book The Gift of Grief which addresses different types of grief, how to honor our own grief, and how to respect those who have experienced loss. She shares the difficulty with loss in relationships through breakups, divorce, incarceration, and even death. She also shares how difficult grief can be when society deems you to be unworthy of grieving such as those who experience disenfranchised loss. Lastly, Dr. Robinson discussed why we grief for those who have hurt us, and how we can begin our healing journey.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Resources Mentioned:

Book:

The Gift of Grief: A Practical Guide on Navigating Grief and Loss

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Website for Dr. Robinson:https://ajitarobinson.com/

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70. Understanding Character Disturbances, Featuring Dr. George Simon, PhD.

Dr. George Simon, PhD. joins us today to help us understand what character disturbances are and how we should treat those who are extremely dangerous and manipulative. According to Dr. Simon, PhD, those who have character disturbances should be held accountable for their behavior and strict boundaries need to be maintained. He discusses why society has come to accept those with character disturbances. He discussed his personal challenges with educating people who are involved with manipulative personalities.

*Please note: Information provided on this episode or general tips and suggestions. They may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

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Books:

Dr. George Simon, PhD is the highly esteemed author of several books including:

Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of Our Age 

In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People

How Did We Get Here? Surviving and Thriving in a Character Disordered World

The Judas Syndrome: Why Good People Do Awful Things 

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Website: https://www.drgeorgesimon.com/

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69. Fighting for Divorce and Custody With the Narcissist, Featuring Steven Peskind, Esq.

Steven Peskind, Esq. owner of Peskind Law Firm in IL, joins us today for a candid conversation on his expertise in divorce law. Mr. Peskind shares how complicated things get when trying to divorce a narcissistic spouse. He explains how toxic spouses would rather spend more money engaging in high conflict battles over assets, custody, and visitation rights rather than coming to a peaceful resolution. Lastly, Mr. Peskind discusses red flags of divorces that have the potential to have grave consequences.

*Please note: Information provided episode is considered to be educational information and suggestions. It may not be suitable for everyone, and the information provided should not be substituted for treatment with a licensed mental health practitioner.

Books Mentioned:

Divorce in Illinois, by Steven N. Peskind

The Laws of Human Nature, by Robert Greene

To connect with attorney Steven Peskind, Esq., visit: his website
LinkedIn: Peskind Law Firm
Facebook: @peskindlawfirm
IG: @peskindlaw
Twitter: @StevenPeskind
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68. The Darker the Berry, The Deeper The Hurt: Featuring Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, PhD. and Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD.

Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD. a sex therapist and owner of A Nod In the Right Direction psychotherapy. Dr. Donna Oriowo and I discuss the overt abuse that darker-skinned people face in our society. Specifically, we talk about colorism, texturism, and the privileges that lighter skinned people have in their relationships and the workforce because of the standards of beauty. There is also a special introductory reading of a clip of my dissertation by Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, founder of Therapy for Black Girls.

*Note: Minor technical difficulties in the episode’s audio

Resources:

Find a therapist at: Therapy For Black Girls

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To connect with Dr. Donna Oriowo, PhD.
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Twitter: @drdonnaoriowo

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